Your mum has always had a hard time letting go. I don't quite know where this stems from but it's been a persistent quality and one which I could do without. If somebody called me something nasty at school the comment would never leave me. Attacks on my appearance were the worst but even small remarks about the quality of my work did not go unnoticed. If a friend did something wrong by me I would take it personally, dwelling on it for days, months and sometimes years at a time. I know this is totally irrational but it's the way I have dealt with set backs all my life.
I read an article in a magazine at yoga the other day about letting go. It said that people who are able to let go and move on from hardships and whatever hurdles life throws at them are better off both mentally and physically.
So does caring make we weak? Would it render my kind extinct by Darwinian standards? Being less emotionally involved in people and situations would certainly make me a different person. I like looking out for others. I like doing things well and having my successes acknowledged. But on the flip side the personal anguish of holding on to negative thoughts is something this mum just doesn't need. I don't know how but I need to stop personalising EVERYTHING and start putting some of that energy to better use.
I've made a start by getting back into yoga which is something I am passionate about. I can already see how light I feel on the days I have practised. It's like the weight of the world is off my shoulders, well except for when I'm in the throws of full locust pose ;-)
And so my mantra for 2013 is going to be to accept the things I cannot change. The list is lengthy and it's about time I let go of circumstances out of my control that are the breeding ground for negative thoughts and feelings.
But how to go about achieving this? Perhaps I'll start by taking a leaf out of your book, Rohan. I admire how easily you accept both your dad and I, despite our shortcomings. How you have the ability to bounce back after hurting yourself or not getting your own way. I love that everything in your little world can be solved with a cuddle. If only life was that simple!
I read an article in a magazine at yoga the other day about letting go. It said that people who are able to let go and move on from hardships and whatever hurdles life throws at them are better off both mentally and physically.
So does caring make we weak? Would it render my kind extinct by Darwinian standards? Being less emotionally involved in people and situations would certainly make me a different person. I like looking out for others. I like doing things well and having my successes acknowledged. But on the flip side the personal anguish of holding on to negative thoughts is something this mum just doesn't need. I don't know how but I need to stop personalising EVERYTHING and start putting some of that energy to better use.
I've made a start by getting back into yoga which is something I am passionate about. I can already see how light I feel on the days I have practised. It's like the weight of the world is off my shoulders, well except for when I'm in the throws of full locust pose ;-)
And so my mantra for 2013 is going to be to accept the things I cannot change. The list is lengthy and it's about time I let go of circumstances out of my control that are the breeding ground for negative thoughts and feelings.
But how to go about achieving this? Perhaps I'll start by taking a leaf out of your book, Rohan. I admire how easily you accept both your dad and I, despite our shortcomings. How you have the ability to bounce back after hurting yourself or not getting your own way. I love that everything in your little world can be solved with a cuddle. If only life was that simple!
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