They say motherhood changes you and it does in so many ways. One obvious change is that I am now more time poor than ever before. I've never had a problem prioritising but I guess now that I don't have as much time on my hands, some things take preference over others. My priorities each day in no particular order consist of changing your nappy, feeding you something you like on time, entertaining you (trips to the park and building towers, playing peek a boo and singing nursery rhymes are favourites), shopping for groceries, going for walks, cleaning the house, planning and preparing dinner and running small errands.
Any spare time I have is devoted to such things as reading, puzzling, blogging, napping and keeping in touch with friends. The latter pastime is one I really enjoyed before I had you (think long Skype appointments and letter writing) but one which has become something of a luxury. Likewise, I have come the realisation that not all of my friendships were as genuine as I had believed them to be.
Since having you, more than anything else, my eyes have been opened to the qualities which make a good person as well as what I have come to expect from my friendships. This raising of expectations and demanding more of my friends was borne from a very fundamental need for self preservation. I am done with giving so much of myself, I am tired of lazy friends and I have had it with selfish people. I took a reality check and a long hard look at a particular friendship and I realised that I really didn't like what I saw. It seems I didn't even know this 'friend' anymore.
I've always been one to invest a lot into my friendships. I like to go the extra mile, not because I expect something in return but because that's the kind of person I am - caring, honest, open and available. Fortunately since your birth I have made some lovely friends in a group of mothers whom I hope to have for years to come.
I've always been one to invest a lot into my friendships. I like to go the extra mile, not because I expect something in return but because that's the kind of person I am - caring, honest, open and available. Fortunately since your birth I have made some lovely friends in a group of mothers whom I hope to have for years to come.
Friendships are so important. I hope that you will be fortunate enough to experience the joy and satisfaction of having at least one good friend. The quote below really sums up friendship for me.
True friendship is like sound health; the value of it is seldom known until it be lost.
Charles Caleb Colton
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